And a dozen more friendly friends, who might not get a wedding invite, but whom I could call for happy hour.What efforts did you put in to help the friendship take root?A client introduced me to this girl via email as she thought we would get along.Turns out she grew up around the corner from me and our lives have followed very similar paths.You know what they say — the best stuff bubbles up in the most unlikely of places.Let your ear remind you of that the next time you’re at a pottery class.
We intentionally check in with each other and try to hang out at least once a week.Initiating the first out-of-gym hang was scary, but I could tell we were all edging around the idea.Once we eventually initiated plans, it was easy after that. Since we see each other at the gym five or six days a week, it’s really easy to keep in touch.What efforts did you put in to help the friendship take root? We both realized that we had potential to have a lasting and meaningful friendship through our faith, where we were at in our lives, and how complementary our personalities were.We made effort to see each other right off the bat.How did you make your most recent genuine adult friend? I do Cross Fit, which I know is notorious for having a “cult-y” vibe, but it’s truly a wonderful community for making friends.I switched to a new gym a year ago after moving, and in the year since, I’ve made approximately half a dozen new GOOD friends.According to lore from under the sea, dolphins are smart as hell and very, very social while turtles prefer to navigate the water in solitude, slowly and steadily. The recognition of its rareness, the pursuit of something more. In the spirit of investigating what actually works (no, really!It’s a different mentality, a philosophical fork, but for whatever reason, when the relationship is stricken (my ear can attest! ) when it comes to making, and keeping, friends as an adult, I asked the Man Repeller community (you? ) made their most recent, genuine adult friends and what takeaways were gleaned to inform subsequent friendship endeavors.You don’t have to go out of your way to make time for someone when they’re at a place you already go to.PLUS, it ends up being good incentive to go to the gym when that’s where your friends are!