You find something you like—maybe you’re a Facebook fan, or a loyal Instagrammer, or a member of the cool Snapchat club—and you stick to it. Ever wonder if you’ve met your soulmate, but didn’t know it?
If you’ve been dating via apps, you’ve almost certainly been swiping hard on Tinder. Happn matches appear in your timeline as you pass them in real life—link up the minute you match or later.
But, there’s actually a whole slew of other dating apps that may be even more useful for you. The one drawback of the location focus is that after a bad date, you risk an awkward run in at the gym.
There are apps that bring together people with similar nerdy interests, apps designed for encounters even more casual than what Tinder delivers, and profile-heavy apps that really get into the specifics of users’ personalities. Bumble is like Tinder, but with all the power in the ladies’ thumbs, and far fewer inappropriate pics.
But even with one good friend under my belt, I still found it difficult to find new friends.
I remember it hit me about three months in (you know, let the honeymoon phase fizzle) and thinking, wow, I went from always having plans and friends to hang out with to literally sitting on my couch feeling weirdly lonely watching all my college friends who live in the same city go out and post on social media, and there I was so far away and feeling so out of my comfort zone.
I know this isn’t the case for most people, but when you find a set of friends who truly get you and you trust with your deepest darkest secrets, you hold onto and cherish those relationships.
You never know until you try, and what better way to use IG’s platform than to make plans offline and spend time disconnecting from the internet? So when I moved to LA, I joined an alumni group on Facebook that would post and host spots for grads to gather and watch our team play.One way to ease the awkwardness of setting up a hang is to research local events in your area.For example, in Los Angeles, the Hollywood Bowl hosts a set of free concerts in the summer (or at least they used to be free a couple years ago), which makes for an entertaining and unique night with your new friend(s).This makes it so you don’t have to think twice and takes the mindless stress out of planning a friend date. One of my good friends taught me to always have five questions or topics ready to talk about or funny stories to share on a first date so conversation doesn’t get stale. You may go on a handful of first-date friend setups, but the good news is that as you get older and hit a level of maturity, you realize that if a friendship isn’t working out, there’s no need to force it and you shouldn’t feel guilty about that. Don’t feel weird about reaching out to a coworker or someone who went to your college who you weren’t friends with but now live in the same city.Take advantage of childhood or college friends who are willing to set you up with someone they know living in your new city. Plus, who wants to waste time and energy (and the cash! Just remember you’re great and people do want to hang out with you, so be a little shameless and extend an invitation.It also has over 300 million users between its website and its app, which means a large dating pool, but also more scammers and fake accounts. Hinge matches you up with friends of friends based on your Facebook contacts. Users post an invitation to hang out and then choose from respondents whom they want to meet. Specify whether you’re using it for friends, a hook up or dating to make sure you find someone looking for the same. After an hour, the invitation, all chats and photos are erased. But fast-forward to post-college and you find yourself in a new city—how do you find genuine friendships as an adult?I’ve been lucky enough to have a group of girls and guys I’ve been friends with since kindergarten and who I’m still extremely close with, even though we’re all spread out across the country.Take advantage of social media connecting people online.We’re all guilty of Insta-stalking and somehow ending up on a random person’s pretty Instagram page.