This is especially useful if your partner has already had an orgasm, which may be the case if you’re having sex with a guy, says Kerner.“In partnered relationships, a lot of women who don’t orgasm during sex are very comfortable taking out a vibrator in order to finish.If that's not your thing, good on you for knowing what you're not into.But if it is, you might be frustrated by how much harder it can be to orgasm with someone who doesn't know your body very intimately.It can take women’s bodies a while to tick off all the physiological ready-for-sex markers, like higher blood flow to the genitals and amped up vaginal lubrication.
Depending on how your bodies line up, that up and down sliding can help his pelvis rub against your clitoris, which can create a very rewarding result for you.
“Using your hands [on yourself] can be a really big turn-on,” says Brown-James.
“And it’s a great idea because most women need clitoral play to have an orgasm.” If you can get off from penetration, great, but don’t only strive for that kind of orgasm if your body can feel awesome in other ways.
It's so much easier to orgasm if you're not dealing with a random asshole interrupting your flow.
Maybe you don't feel like speaking up, or even after your flawless instruction they aren’t quite getting it, or they shrugged off your tips but you're fine continuing. You can still reach orgasm since you ** know what works for you.