) and it was impossible to get a sense of what these men were about.After one too many failed dates, I seriously considered starting my own dating site. Business idea: How could I make this more enjoyable for women, so they can weed out the bad eggs before suffering through a terrible date?I wasn't really sure how to read him, and I'm usually pretty good at that.After some brief small-talk (you know, the typical what-are-your-hobbies-what-are-you-looking-for chitchat), we set up a coffee date.No one would ever seek out a 50-year-old sugar baby … John was a 34-year-old business executive from my town.His "Hello" note was very straightforward, even a bit cold.At the time, I had joint custody and only saw them two weeks out of the month.I knew they weren't ever going to meet him, so I didn't feel the need to tell him right off the bat.
(Or, "cougar baby," I guess it's called, since I'm older than him.) I told him what my car payment, rent and living expenses were, and he agreed to give me ,500 a month in cash. We were on the same page from the start, which made things easy.He'd laid all his cards on the table, and I was either in or out.Oddly enough, he never asked if I had children and I don't remember ever bringing mine up.I learned that he had two children and was separated, largely because he and his wife weren't intimate enough. He was looking for someone who was sexy, confident and stable, which he wasn't finding by dating younger women. After my past experience with the 29-year-old, I was worried that he might not be on my maturity level.But the way he spoke about his career and what he wanted out of our arrangement told me there were no nasty tricks up his sleeve.His easygoing and carefree personality was the polar opposite of my ex. It seemed like these sites were almost to set me up for a disaster.The questions were surface-level (like, do you prefer romantic comedies or horror movies?I created my profile and uploaded pictures of myself.Nothing too crazy or screamed, "I'm on here to have reckless sex and get flown to party in Miami Beach every weekend!That kind of relationship didn't go with my moral standards. After a fluke first marriage at 27, I met the successful, headstrong man I was taught to believe every woman wants.Women strutting for a wad of cash and to please a wealthy man … I saw my love life going in a much different direction. Together, we had three beautiful children and lived the classic, white-picket-fence life for almost two decades. He's an entrepreneur, so I was always sympathetic to the demands of his work.