Many consider it a testing ground for whether, and when, they should take thingsfurther.
“It sounds cheesy but I know I’m ready for sex when his kiss makes me go nuts,” says Brooke, 25, from Providence, RI.
Whatever it is, it gets some single people ready to head to bed.
“If the guy can make me laugh hard, he’s pretty much sealed the deal,” says Michele, 43, from Akron, OH.
The key word is know — not assume, or guess or hope.
“It’s emotionally comforting to know the person you’re sharing your body with isn’t bedding someone else in his spare time,” explains Dana, 25, from Brooklyn, NY.
“It makes sex more passionate and meaningful.” For other people, sex comes before a serious commitment — in fact, having sex is the very way they figure out whether they want to hang around for the long haul. C., explains it this way: “I’m not a dog, but I am a guy.
It made me feel gross.” Why does exclusivity make such a difference?
Perhaps because people feel they can really let loose when they're secure in the relationship.