Our intent is not to get on a soapbox or start a debate, but to really look at the effects pornography has on relationships and, specifically, marriage.We all have our own personal moral and religious views on the subject, but for the purpose of this article, we’re going to be mainly focusing on what scientific research, studies, and surveys have discovered about the link between pornography and marriage.Pornography leads to objectification rather than a meaningful interaction with another person. When men and women were exposed to porn, they were less likely to be pleased with their partner’s physical appearance, affection, and sexual performance.There’s a big difference between having sex and making love. Not only does porn affect how users view others but it also affects how they view themselves.Most people who view pornography go to great lengths to keep it hidden.It’s most often watched late at night when their spouse is asleep or when they are home alone.Sex tends to be impersonal, rushed, and “forced.” There’s no foreplay. Results showed that the more porn a man was exposed to, the more likely he was to prefer that women be submissive and subordinate to men. Research has proven that just two sessions of one-hour exposures of R-rated sexual entertainment change men’s attitudes toward women.They begin to objectify women and no longer see them as individually unique or valuable because of the demeaning manner in which women and sex are portrayed.
Our post today is in response to all these questions.So, why is there so much confusion about pornography?If you’re ever on social media you’ve probably noticed that there is a lot of debate and contradicting views when it comes to the topic of pornography.However, as a site dedicated to strengthening marriages, we feel strongly that it’s a topic that needs to be more openly and candidly discussed and studied.That’s why today we’re tackling the (sometimes uncomfortable and awkward) topic of…Pornography is on the rise!Did you know that in 2013 porn sites received 450 million unique monthly visitors?That’s more than Netflix, Amazon, and Twitter combined!A relationship where one spouse is only interested in taking usually does not last very long.People who use porn regularly often have a hard time being gentle during lovemaking. Interesting, considering that gratitude and selfishness are opposites.Users are careful to lock doors, erase their internet history, and keep files and videos hidden with passwords.Spouses are shocked and feel betrayed when they find out because they were so easily kept in the dark.