“I don’t like to tell people how we met,” she says of her fiancé."It’s not bad, it’s not embarrassing, it’s just not cool: We met on a dating app, like all of you.There are stats that say marriages among people who met on an app are less likely to end after the first year, and despite a big cultural annoyance about the process, the vast majority of Americans think that, ultimately, apps a good way to meet people.Even anecdotally, a lot of the people I spoke to for this piece—all of whom self-identified as dating app haters—nevertheless met their long-term partner on an app.While I was primarily looking for love, I also enjoyed the app as an activity.From what I've been told by women currently using the app, however, I was a rarity, as I was actively seeking a substantial relationship.But it's turned into two long-term relationships now.
Well, with the last few dating apps I've used, I really only wanted a fling.The truth is, no app embodies the “necessary evil” aspect of swiping the way Tinder does.And it’s not even Tinder’s fault: As a pioneer of the current dating app format, Tinder’s utter ubiquity means everyone has an opinion about it. Now that I'm in a long-term relationship with a person I met on the app, there's still a part of me that's nostalgic for the act of swiping.While I did find what I was looking for when I used the app, I also enjoyed the game-like aspect of swiping. (It was the preferred app I'd browse when I was going to the bathroom.)So with that, I guess you could say my intentions on the app were mixed.According to them, most other users are using the app for more selfish or sexual reasons. Are men using these dating apps for something besides dating?I asked some friends over at cougar dating site Toyboy Warehouse to reach out to their audience to see what guys' real intentions on dating apps are. I wasn't sure what I was looking for when I first joined, but I've had loads of conversations, a number of dates and a relationship (which has sadly ended now).I've never had a one-night stand.— Mike, 32OK, ladies, now I get it. While a healthy portion fully admit they want to find love, just as many want sex and only sex.I'm personally shocked I didn't see any “friends with benefits” wishes, but it seems like the guys looking for sex are after something even less committal, opting for one-night stands.So given the evidence, and the fact that it’s totally okay to think dating online sucks and still do it anyway, I wanted to know: Which apps come most recommended by people who fuckin’ hate to date? Some of their answers won’t surprise you—even if their reasoning does—while other options are refreshingly new.For many modern daters, the name “Tinder" should be accompanied by the Darth Vader theme song.