After that, I stopped chasing guys who were too concerned about their feelings to even think about mine.
Red flags like continually postponing dates and constantly asking, “When are you getting the surgery?
I stayed in my back seat for probably five minutes to make sure he was gone.
When I got back into the front seat to drive home, I still felt uneasy.
He was concerned about how his sexuality would “change.” I had another similar experience on a first date where a man greeted me, hugged me, then said he left something in his car.
With my accounts on Ok Cupid, Tinder, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel and Christian Mingle, I am subjected to the same kind of messages from Mr.These are men who find me attractive, but are initially hesitant because of my trans-ness.With these men, I went on dates in public at the movies, or a chill restaurant, and I was viewed as more than a new sexual experience—but I don’t think I was seen as potential relationship material either. We vibed well and there was sexual tension building during our dates. After a month, he reached out to me saying he couldn’t be with me because I am transgender.” helped me whittle down the number of guys I talked to by half.Thanks to Tinder, profile pictures say more than a thousand words—and actual words seem to be irrelevant on our profiles.Washboard-Abs-No-Face and unsolicited dick pics that most women, unfortunately, receive. Right as a transgender woman (I was born male, but identify and present as female) adds a whole new dimension to digital dating.Since transitioning in I haven’t reacted positively to guys who hit on me in person because I haven’t mastered the art of telling them that we have “the same parts.” For the past three years, Tinder has been my gateway into online dating as a transgender woman.After realizing that I deserved so much better and was wasting my time with these guys, I stopped giving them attention.After one too many encounters with men who were fetishizing me, I started to spend time on guys who actually wanted to get to know me.So, whenever I see 6’2″ or taller on a guy’s profile, it’s almost an automatic right swipe.As a trans woman on dating apps, I’ve always made sure that guys are aware that I am transgender. There have also been many documented cases of trans women being hurt and sometimes even killed when they disclose their status to transphobic men that found them attractive, so being completely transparent is also a way of protecting myself from potentially dangerous situations.