Some people even begin dating with weeks or a few months.
But there are those who wait out the so-called year deadline of propriety too, and others who buy wholeheartedly into the notion that they must “work at their grieving” to get it all out of their system before trying to move on in any aspect of their lives, dating included. In my opinion, and experience, when thinking about it begins to more of a logistical “how will I do it” rather than a daydream to chase away sadness, you are probably ready to look into it at the very least.
"At about six months after my divorce, I asked myself if I felt ready to try to have a real relationship."I think figuring out when you’re ready is a matter of being really clear with where you are in the process.I found that a lot of guys I dated were ready to settle down really quickly, so I had to start making it clear on my online profile that I was just casually dating at first.A couple of cautions: 1) Your family and friends will be at different stages of “ready for you to date” than you are.Taking their feelings into account is good, but don’t forget that they have their own lives to mind and should leave the minding of yours to you. Try to avoid a revolving door of dates where underage kids are concerned.Generally, if you have good, supportive relationships with kids, extended family and friends, this will all work out and they will be happy and supportive. Once you hand the keys of your dating life over to your kids, they won’t give them back, and do you really want to be that old man or woman, whose adult children talk to them as though they were small fluffy purse puppies?3) Be honest about what you want out of dating with yourself and the people you date. If you are in the market for more – act like you are.The point is that the days of donning mourning for public displays of grieving for specific periods of time are long over.Anyone who is spouting rules and timelines at you has an ulterior agenda, and you are within your rights to question them and it. Even if you aren’t sure, meeting a guy or gal for coffee never hurt anybody, and enjoying the occasional Starbuck’s isn’t a commitment to anything.Then it was back to online with , which I found out after the fact is a well-known “hook up mostly” site.The majority of men I met through it were varying degrees of depressing in their hunt for on-call girlfriends.