At Cosmo, we're all about breaking the rules, so when the new book landed on our desks, we were inspired to launch our own investigation. There is one variable, however, that almost never feeds into the equation: whether you "gave it up" too soon. There's only one problem.…We hooked up on the first date." "If the moment feels right, and there's chemistry, why not sleep together?
We polled almost 1,000 18- to 35-year-olds about their attitudes on sex on the first date and whether they've actually done it. It's a misconception that is held by millions (spoiler alert: Cosmo's poll found that 83 percent of women believe men think less of a woman who has sex on the first date), but the truth is, most guys just don't think like that (67 percent of guys polled say they absolutely don't). In the history of planet Earth, no guy has ever said, "She's awesome. " says my friend Teddy, a designer, who has the guts to say what most guys really think.
Of that first group, 94 participants had a first date and completed the full survey, which included measures drawn from the literature on relationships and online dating.
"I had bought a new ,000 bed, and I wanted to break it in." The conventional wisdom would say that Rica made a mistake. —to learn that when the back of Rica's dress tore open, she turned to Phil and said, "Well, I guess you're going to have to keep your hand on my ass all night." Phil told the conventional wisdom to go to hell. We got to know each other, and we found that we had so much in common." They broke every rule. I'm not arguing that it will boost your odds of finding love. (A final disclaimer: This is true for most guys—not every guy.
They christened Rica's bed, spent the weekend together, held hands at the coffee shop, and when Phil returned home to Chicago, "It felt magical, like we were already boyfriend and girlfriend." How about Phil's buddies? " Phil e-mailed Rica to say that if she came to visit, he would make her an elaborate six-course dinner of scallops, monkfish, and lime sorbet. That logic is nutty, and I have no idea if it makes sense from your perspective. But my lawyer is forcing me to type these disclaimers at gunpoint.) All I'm saying is that if you want to hook up, we're not going to think less of you. The roots of this double-standard go back to the twisted mind-set that a guy who sleeps around is a stud and a woman who sleeps around is a slut. And would you really want to date that kind of hypocrite anyway? The fallacy, though, is thinking that date two would have happened if we had skipped the nooky. If the man and the woman are a match, it doesn't really matter when they hook up. They traveled to England as a couple, toured the countryside, and even stayed in a stone castle…where he took out a diamond ring and popped the question.
Lastly, in spite of the rise in online dating, only 5 percent of married couples or those in a committed relationship say they met their partners online, and 88 percent of people say they met their partners via conventional means.
So while online dating is on the rise, most online relationships do not lead to long-term, committed relationships. (2013), a higher percentage of married couples in their sample (30 percent) met online, and those that did were slightly but significantly more likely to stay together and report greater marital satisfaction.