Fred Kantande, a second-year student at College of Medicine in Blantyre, however, says it is not proper for people in relationships to have friends of the opposite sex as it leads to loss of value of the relationship at hand.“To me, it is absolutely wrong because it makes the other partner insecure. It is also easy to fall into temptations of doing something silly because of the affection that comes from the relationship,” he said.“However, I believe out of respect for your spouse that even if you were close friends before the marriage, there ought to be strong boundaries around that relationship.“For example, I would not be comfortable with my husband meeting a woman for coffee on a regular basis to talk about what is going on in his life. “However, give special consideration to a number of factors that, if ignored, can potentially threaten your marriage.”Wondering whether or not a close friendship with someone of the opposite-sex poses a threat to your marriage?That is a conversation he ought to be having with me.”“It is possible for married people to have healthy opposite-sex friendships,” says Dr. If so, Linaman offers 20 questions for you to answer.She says what matters is how one conducts himself/herself when they are in such circumstances. Some people have some self-regulation while some do not, which is something to worry about.“Of course, the issue of insecurity may arise, but mere friendships are easy to spot as it is easy to spot sexual relationships,” she says.It’s the age-old question of, “can girls and guys be ‘just friends? Below Mike Zacchio and I talk about our experiences of having close friends of the opposite sex and what it actually means to be “just friends.” Zacchio: I’ve never dated anyone I was friends with, then had it blossom into a relationship like a Monica-Chandler-type thing.
The two things need to be clearly defined,” he says.They say a stranger stabs you in the front, a friend stabs you in the back; a lover stabs you in the heart, but best friends only poke each other with straws.Some nice words that when we ponder on them as they make us hold on to those people we consider close friends.The logic is simple; who are we going to call when our relationships fall apart?Who will be there when our partners stab us in the heart?For 20 years, First Things First has provided relationship tools and education to couples and families in our community.When you donate to First Things First, 100% of your tax-deductible donation will help us to continue providing classes and resources to strengthen and empower the relationships that make our community great.Not all opposite-sex friendships are dangerous, but it is important to err on the side of caution.It is helpful to discuss the nature of your friendship on a regular basis with your spouse.Here are a few of them:“If you answered 'yes' to one or more of the questions above, your opposite-sex friendship may be a real threat to the quality of your marriage,” Linaman says.“It may even be in the best interest of your marriage to either significantly limit or actually end your close friendship.”An informal survey shows that both married men and women were uncomfortable with their spouse having close friendships with the opposite sex.