" At first, her disclosure strikes you as too much information.But then it gets you thinking: You're single, too — what could be so bad about a casual night in bed with someone you like but don't love?On the upside, the profiles are brief, which helps you to make decisions quickly.The downside is that short profiles make it harder to figure out what a lot of people are looking for.My recommendations for the best dating sites are based primarily on my own experiences with online dating sites as a woman, with some word-of-mouth impressions from friends thrown in for good measure. Because that's the one thing my love life was really missing... The timer is designed to encourage contact, and some people really do appreciate that feature.But if you're someone who procrastinates, Bumble may not be for you.Further evidence of Roving Eye Syndrome came from a study of sexuality in the United States commissioned by AARP in 2009: It found that 6 percent to 8 percent of singles age 50 and up were dating more than one person at a time.The same study revealed 11 percent of survey respondents were in a sexual relationship that did not involve cohabitation.
Here's an overview of the best dating sites on the market. Bumble requires women to message first and if the guy doesn't message back within 24 hours, he loses the potential dates.
The next morning (or even that night) come the recriminations: Was it wrong to give that person the sexual green light when you had no intention of rekindling the emotional side of the relationship?
Marilyn, a 57-year-old single colleague of mine, recently reconnected with someone she had worked with many years ago. "No," Marilyn said with a laugh, "it's better than that: I'm in like with him — and that's exactly where I want to be." She further confided that they planned to make their reunions "a regular thing — if four times a year can be called 'regular.' But I think that's about all I really want." Marilyn's casual approach to maintaining a friendship with benefits typifies the mindset of older folks who have reconciled themselves to having "great fun" even if it's "just one of those things." And episodic pleasure-seeking may be more common than you think: In The Normal Bar, a book I wrote last year with Chrisanna Northrup and James Witte, we reported that 61 percent of female survey respondents who had partners fantasized about someone they had met.
Many older divorced or widowed men and women are in the same boat. You're probably not desperate enough to stalk your neighbors, or to go looking for friends with benefits in all the wrong places (bars come to mind).
They feel protective of their privacy and peace of mind, but they haven't become eunuchs or hermits. But offered a chance to reconnect with someone from your past — dinner with your high school steady, for example — you might just surprise yourself by winding up in bed.