She says social media makes it easy to believe everyone else is ‘more interesting, more attractive, more talented, wealthier.’ The fear then, is that any potential partner will have unlimited access to better ‘products.’ Committing to an honest relationship would mean letting someone discover that you’re not as loveable as your Instagram feed implies. Marta thinks most of her peers would rather maintain the status quo than risk having happiness and losing it.
She says the status quo is lonely, but the trick is not to think about it.
‘People don’t want to for a relationship; they don’t want to make some kind of long-term investment.
That’s why so far, he’s avoided relationships at any cost.
The Netherlands has one of the highest divorce-to-marriage ratios in the world; according to the statistics, probably over half of Dutch RUG students have parents who are divorced.
‘My parents are in the middle of a divorce right now’, one student confides. I’m not confident I know what a healthy, committed relationship is like.
And an overwhelming majority – 76 percent – say they want to be married someday (80 percent of male respondents and 71 percent of female respondents).
So it seems safe to say that most students actually Privately, students told me they would love to have the sexual and emotional benefits of a committed relationship. ‘Most relationships at the RUG are about comfort, not commitment.